MarYAh sAn Tisima

"Cheating isn't just about the sex". Men cheat because he may also be seekingthe attention he no longer gets at home.

Some men don't have the nous -or the strength- to end a reationship. After sending more subtle messages that don't get through, they press the nuclear button."Many men have trouble breaking off the relationships simply because they dont want to perceive as the 'bad guy'. So they tiptoe around the issue in the hope that their partner will get so frustrated she'll end it first. If it doesnt work, a certain sort of man feels that the only way out is to opt for the ultimate relationship breaker-one that is almost certan to drive a woman away for good:they have an AFFAIR!

A man's job is to spread his seed to ensure the survival of his genetic legacy. A man's biology drives him to wander. Men have strOng biological urges to knock on thedoors of neighbouring huts.

Think about what's on your ipod. You have your favourite songs that you play over and over, but every once once in a while you're in the mood to hear something you haven't played in a long time. You only need to hear it ocassionally,but still, you appreciate the change. Relationships need to be like good iPod playlist. What men want in relationships- as do most women-

is to be able to take comfort in the routine of a long term commitment, as long as it involves some surprises along the way that keep it fresh.

Well, what about heR?She's my pretty young sister whom i missed most when I'm away back in the Philippines. She left when she was about to reach her eighteenth birthday . Now, we're together and I'm very glad that she's wise enough to manage her decisions regarding circumstances.I love her so dearly and I can't even explain my feelings when I finally saw her with my mom fetching us at the airport.(The day when we arrived here in Macclesfield).
An-an is very young at heart. She haven't had any relationship from the past and I'm so proud of her. I cant even imagine myself reacting about her future boyfriend. Maybe if that time comes, I'll surely gonna burst out.As an older sister I tend to be so possessive of her. I don't even want her to socialize with those guys that can make her realize that she's on the right age to have a close personal relationship.For me she's still my little sister who needs my assistance in choosing regarding decisions in life. I remember then that even the details regarding her junior and senior promenade, she consulted me. I'm the one who chose the dress that she'll gonna wear on that special night. I even recall those days that I don't want her to go with her senior classmates 'cause I'm too worried that she'll realized that she's already nagdadalaga. I don't want her to experience what I had been through before. She's too precious and I'm ready to defend and guide her to whatever difficulties she'll encounter.

Dear Joan,

Whooah sis,finally we're together...I missed u a lot..Hoping that this is the chance that will fill the emptiness I felt when we're separated by thousands of miles. Now, you are already old enough to decide what track you should take but still you are very much welcome to bother me and ask me for some guidance and even up to this time I'm still acting as your lost mother. I am ready anytime to entertain your uncertainties and will gonna do my best to feed you important learnings that I acquired before.
An,thank you sincerely for giving me a chance to get here.Thank you for giving me and bokbok an opportunity to live with mama. Thank you for supporting my studies and for giving Micah a bright future. I had my degree and because of this, I dedicate my diploma to you and mama. I knew joan that time will come that we'll gonna live our separate lives and hoping that you'll gonna use your intelligence superior to the emotion. Emotion put many people at risk and I am one of its living example.
I'm hoping that this is the continuation of our wonderful relationship and we will be able to cover the wasted time that was brought by those situations which were beyond our control.

Ate

Madalas pag ako nabobore dito sa bahay, I usually visit the chat room.When someone send me through private messaging, madalas ang start ng conversation is asking for our asl. Sakin ang madalas ko lang napapansin eh mas interested pa sila sa location kesa sa pagmumukha.If everytime na maimention ko na taga bicol ako, they will surely tell u uragon ang mga taga bicol and also asking what's the meaning behind. Well, explain ko lang..

1. Astig!!! - people who live daw in bikol are astig! Why? Cause bicolanos are known to have a strong personality.Strong in any ways kahit anong sitwasyon walang inuurungan. Tingnan mo naman, natabunan na ng lahar, hala hukay pa rin.Basta buhay may bahay,go!
2. Matapang - walang inuurungan na away. Pag prinovoke mo,hala ka!! Itak habol sayo. Uso kaya ang namatay dun na pinagtataga.
3. Lovable-Especially women although ngarag nga lang minsan.Nagger!Maasikaso kaso naman pag ginalit mo paplantsahin ka talaga sa mukha.
4. Masarap magluto- Bicol express,tinuktuk,tas laing..hay sarap!!
5. Cool-kasi kahit wala ng uulamin ang pamilya madalas pa ang tatay nakokorner pa ni misis sa inuman.
6. Approachable-kahit sabihin na di kayo magkakilala sa town nyo basta familiar mukha,pag nagkita kayo sa ibang lugar asahan mo kakilala ka nia.
7. Adventurous - mahilig masadlak sa mga kakaibang bagay.Gustong gusto mag try ng mga odd things.Kaw ba naman kumain ng siling labuyo!
8. Love ng guys ang gal -kahit anong pangit ng gal pag frend,frend. Pantay pantay treatment.Kung redhorse inom ng guys, dapat ganun din ang girls.Pag burat(lasing) na, no worries kasi ihahatid ka pauwi ng walang bawas.
9. Music Lover- any genre basta hit,sasayaw.
10.Kurudalan lovers - alam nio ung sayawan sa plaza pag may okasyon?yun yun.. mahilig bicolano dun.siksikan!

Kinabukasan, habang ako'y nag aalmusal ng pinritong itlog na ipinalaman sa tinapay,pinakikinggan ko ang usapan ng bagong dating na nanay at ng aming kasambahay.May naulinigan akong tawanan at hagisan ng biruan."Pag ganyan kasing may kadate ka, patayin mo ang iyong telepono." Sabi ng aking ina habang sumisimsim ng mainit na kape."Eh malay ko ba naman na sa oras ba namang un maisipan pa ni *****(dating malapit na kaibigan) na tumawag sakin!Putsa sablay tuloy!".Sa aking pag-isip isip buti na nga lang pala at naisipan kong gamitin ang pinakabago kong simcard na di ko man lang nagamit magmula ng aking bilhin.Pagkaraa'y tahimik nako't gumayak paalis para simulan na ang gawaing pinagkukuhanan ko ng pambayad sa katakot-takot kong utang. Sa pag umpisa ng aking paglalakad ni katiting na pagsisisi sa aking ginawa ng nakalipas na gabi ay wala akong maramdaman.Pasalamat pa siya't nakatulong ako kahit papaano sa pag-ahon sa kanyang paulit-ulit na pagkakasadlak sa putikan.Malay ko ba kung nakapagbitbit sila ng pangproproteksyon na kung hindi ay sa lumao't sandali pa ay problema pa't bibilog na naman ang kanyang maganda't pinaka ingat ingatang tyan. Kung sa ganun pala,madadagdagan na naman ang kanyang koleksyong manika na gawa sa iba't ibang uri ng nagagandahang imported na semilya.

Mainit sa labas. Kagigising. Bru (bruha) need to have a quick fag (yosi) sa dating tambayan sari sari store.

Tambay tambay tambay...

Then after a while someone came. Someone from a credit company, naniningil ng bayad ng business loan.

Tindera tsaka agent usap...

Few minutes sumilip agent, kasi nasa loob ng tindahan ang bru...

Nacute-an kay bru tapos sabi sa tindera.

Agent: Can I get her number?

Bru: Bakit loloadan mo ba?!

Agent: Oo ba basta textmate tau! *giggling*

Bru: 0******7066, load ko huh?!


Tudot, tudot, tudot... *message alert tone*

Palitan text messages hanggang sa magkadevelopan.

After a few months, Bru have to stay in Legazpi, somewhere in Bicol, near agent's new workplace for her to take the nursing board examination review.

Dates...party...bar...etc...


Valentines Day '06

Kring, kring, kring...private number

Bru: Hello?!

Anonymous Caller: Sino to?! *galit*

Bru: Ikaw ang unang tumawag, bat ako ang tatanungin mo?! *grrr din*

Anonymous Caller: Punyeta ka!!! Tigilan mo asawa ko!!!

Bru: Huh?!!! toot toot toot (censored, bad words)

Anonymous Caller: Di mo ba alam ang kinakalantari mo may asawa't anak na?!!!

Bru: *Shocked* (teary eyed)

Bru turned the fone off.

Iyak, iyak, iyak...


Nagkataon pa si agent di kinokontak si bru for almost one week na. Ang masama pa, even a single greeting from him wala siyang natanggap. Valentines Day kasi. Tsk!!! Tsk!!!.

Sakit..pucha!!! (feeling ni bru)

After one week, pakita si agent.

Aminan. Sumbatan. Iyakan. Bugbugan (bru lang nambugbog)black eyed hehe...

Bru::mahal kita(corny noh pero tru)..kahit may asawa ka, ok lang...huhu

(tanga ka bru!martyr!)

Relationship continued...paminsan-minsan na lang date..

Agent: Cge,iwanan ko family ko para sayo.(pero plano lang yun).

Life went on na ganun set up...


Kring kring...asawa ng agent

Bru received the call...

Asawa: Biatch ka talaga!!matitiis mo bang makasira ng isang buong pamilya dahil lang sa letseng kaligayahan mo!!!parausan ka lang!!!ako pa rin inuuwian..kasal kami!!!(hingal!)

Di nakapagsalita c bru..wawa man


Early morning ng sunday,last week of march ata yun..inaya c bru ng frend nia magsimba..
Nagdalawang isip ang bru.Pero sa kapipilit ng frend,natuloy pa rin...


Sa simbahan..

Our father(CHOIR SINGING) ...

Naiyak c bru..di natapos mass..umuwi na..

Kring kring..tinawagan ng bru ang agent...

Bru: IT'S OVER!!!
-END-



P.S.

Ako pala c Bru..martyr noh?patawad po...kya nga nakakarealize kasi huli na..



MSGS:

Kay Agent:

Ei! I'm not blaming you for my past..It helped me a lot.I can go on with my life now wisely..salamat sa lessons..even though i gave up lot of tears ayos lang un..at least kaylangan ko ng magbackground check sa lahat ng magiging suitors ko..pero kung mabibigyan ako ng chance na mabago ang past ko...never ko un ierase.. i enjoyed every single moment with you...tanx ulit.sori din kasi edited na love story natin...hehe.


Sa asawa ng agent:

Sorry po..sorry kasi nasira ko magandang samahan nio noon..sna maging stronger ang relationship nio now and please be a wyf for your husband...u know wat i min...naghahanap lang ng comfort ang lalaki kasi minsan nagkukulang na wyf..


Sa mga readers:

Di na uso po ang tanga ngayon tas martyr..Stupid things sa lyf natin nangyayari dahil na rin sa stupidity natin..gets nio?alam ng mali,go pa rinnn!!! haysss...

Xa cge po...ciao!!!